MOH Advice

I'm the Maid of Honor in my cousin's wedding next May and I'm truly so excited because she is like a sister to me! I am also in 2 of my brother's weddings and I have my own wedding next year. It's going to be a busy 12 months!! Anyways, I offered to throw her a bridal shower and would like to discuss planning and budget with the other bridesmaids. With all the events going on within our family I told her I wanted to secure a date ASAP. I know it's still early but this way we can avoid conflict. I suggested an early March date and she said she'd check her calendar. A few days later I asked if she'd given the date anymore thought and she said she had been busy and hadn't had time to check her calendar. I said okay let me know soon so I can contact the bridesmaids. Then she kind of flipped out and I sensed the frustration in her voice. She told me this is just too early and how could she possibly know what she is doing that day? I just ended the conversation after that.Anyways this upset me because I'm trying to do this FOR her. Literally all she has to do is show up. She finishes school in December and is hoping to get a job before she gets married so I think she's worried about securing a date because she doesn't know if she will have to work. Am I being pushy? What should I do? When should I start planning the bridal shower? Thanks!!! via /r/weddingplanning http://ift.tt/2uQrOMb